The main thing I wanted to share with you in my realisation about Love.  Love can be broken up in two forms, Conditional and Unconditional, they sound very similar but are very different in energy.  Conditional Love is what MOST of us give out without realising it, as Solomon says, “We should make connections and not attachments” and Conditional love is just that. We give it in a way that we create an attachment to the outcome, even though you may not say it with your words your energy is saying, “I will give you this love is you make me happy by doing this....or being this way”. In other words using your love like it’s a currency, You give in order to get. There is NOTHING wrong with this, but we set ourselves up for a fall as when then ‘attachment’ isn’t fulfilled then we feel hurt/dismayed/deflated, as we were using that attachment for our love. Now if we gave it UNCONDITIONALLY with NO attachment in the outcome ( a LOT harder to do than it sounds ) then we are always fulfilled as we are tuned into our natural state of being, which is of LOVE and then we attract more.
Look in your life and see where you have created attachments and not connections. Connections are pure unconditional love where you *honestly* aren’t expecting anything from the outcome, attachments are when we are expecting something in return. Normally with the latter we set ourselves up for a fall, but if we just try and give it out because it FEELS GREAT then we WILL get it back, just don’t expect it! Sounds Backwards? Yep, sure seems it but LOVE feels good, whether we are giving it or receiving it, so let’s just give it and EVERYTHING we get back is a bonus.  You may give Joe Bloggs ‘love’ but may receive it back from the sound of children playing, just be open to all options and you will normally find you get it back the way you want it. Just DROP the attachment to the outcome.

One other thing on this subject and that is how we hide behind our Conditional Love shields. Imagine back when you were born, we were all unconditional lovers, we loved everything and everyone. But over the years we learnt through patterning and observation that we can control and get ‘results’ by rationing our love and creating attachments to things. Kind-of-like hiding behind a ‘conditional’ shield, firing out love where and when you wanted to. BUT behind this phantom shield is a being who is PURE love - who loves EVERYONE - whether or not we admit it.

Isn’t that a nice feeling to feel? EVERYONE on some level LOVES me!  Disasters that happen around the world show that when we are shaken out of our conditioning we drop back into the heart and Universal LOVE beams. Everyone just runs around to help each other, with NO hesitation whatsoever, because that is the REAL us. They have forgotten about their shield of conditionality as really they DON’T exist.  I remember walking in a busy town, everyone was in their normal ‘daze’, walking like robots ignoring the surroundings. Then an old man fell over. You could literally see everyone’s energy instantly shift and they all rallied around this man.

Why? Because this is our natural state, and it’s a very comforting thought to dwell upon when going on with our day. When people fire these arrows from behind their ‘shields’ just remember that they are a pure love beings *somewhere* behind it all.  I’m not saying you're not entitled to be pissed off when things happen, just after the mood has passed take a step back and see it wasn’t the real them. The real one LOVES you and ALWAYS will, friends, family or lovers and when we finally snuff it, the shields are dropped and all is well.

We just have the choice to try and start living like that now.

 


Morgen
08/16/2013 12:15pm

Great article. I agree. I had unconditional love for my ex partner. He cheated lied, and we talked it out. I let the hurt and anger pass because I still felt love for him. Well he repeated his behavior 2 years later this time blamed me, and because I didn't live up to his expectations he left me for one of the girls he cheated on me with. I had seen the way she talks to him, she has Conditional love for him. She tells him if he buys her flowers he will have her heart forever, if he takes her certain places, says certain things then she will love him. I told him he didn't have to buy my love, celebrate valentines day, I just wanted him and for him to do those things on his own without me telling him he has to in order to have me and my love.

But I guess he wanted someone who has conditioned love like him and couldn't handle feeling loved for just being himself. I am too loving.

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12/02/2013 5:57am

I love this article. It just about highlights my very idea of Love...completely open without attachments to any outcomes. My reply though is for Morgan.

Morgan, one can never be too loving. Your ex partner was not ready for unconditional Love in which he is totally accepted for who he is instead of being conditioned into anything. Society teaches us conditions, boundaries, limits, restrictions, rules whereas Love has no rules and knows no bounds. You even took him back knowing the possibility of him cheating on you again, and to me that takes tremendous courage and strength. One day, you too will have someone who will Love you just as unconditionally as you Love each and everyone else. Keep up that kind of courage. It really is inspiring.

<3

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Morgen
01/06/2014 7:47pm

@Brittany - Thank you for the reply. I agree with everything that you wrote, and now see that my ex was not ready for unconditional love.

I have learned that it starts with self love in order to love others unconditionally. Thank you for your kind words Brittany, I will remain optimistic that I shall find someone to love me back unconditionally.

I wish you to receive unconditional love as well (in case you have not met that special someone). Have a great day! <3

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Morgen
01/06/2014 7:47pm

@Brittany - Thank you for the reply. I agree with everything that you wrote, and now see that my ex was not ready for unconditional love.

I have learned that it starts with self love in order to love others unconditionally. Thank you for your kind words Brittany, I will remain optimistic that I shall find someone to love me back unconditionally.

I wish you to receive unconditional love as well (in case you have not met that special someone). Have a great day! <3

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02/13/2014 12:15am

Unless it is like my wife who is a narccisist. Sociopath.. then they really never loved you... you just freakign got jobbed. and messes with your entire world view.. and messes your kids up.. and you feel raped inside because they were always lieing and fake and then the monster comes out of them.. leaving you to wonder what ever was?

if it's not the real them.. then why does this happen?

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Blair
09/28/2014 10:26am

I "love" finding, reading, soaking these life views into my awareness.
The paragraph about... "natural disasters around the world", YES! Unconditional really does live among us in countless numbers.
And the comment exchange above between Morgen and Brittany, beautiful.
Thank you universe for knowledge and views shared. :~)

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